Who is that guy? Anyone who has worked a day in their life has probably encountered ‘that’ guy. He’s the guy who misses team workouts, or if he is doing a workout at all, then he’s not giving it a good effort because he’s cutting corners. Being on your own is one thing but being in a team, well that’s another, right?

Shoddy workouts and shoddy training affects everyone. He actually believes he’s smarter and fitter than everyone else but his shortcuts and attitude demonstrate he can’t see the big picture. He actually think no one can teach him anything new. He knows it all. He believes he is more deserving than any one else.

He is more concerned with appearances than he is with working on cultivating his character. He doesn’t take defeat well either because he is always a sore loser. When he wins at a competitive event he gloats about it and in turn he teases others incessantly for losing. Somehow he squeaked by Boot Camp, SWAT school or whatever school, and no one noticed until it was too late. When he’s teased, he behaves very immaturely by ‘blowing his top’ or sulking in a corner of a room, or he gets in his car and loudly peels off.

He blames others for his losses and doesn’t accept responsibility for the actions that contributed to his loss. Who is he again? He’s THAT guy….

So, what do you do with that guy and how do you ensure that you’re not that guy? Pummel him? Does that change anything? Might make you feel good. Why bother? You want to be a good team-mate to him because he is in fact a member of the team. It might be best to focus energy on the people who you can control such as yourself. You can’t change him over-night, and the reality is, only he can choose to change himself. The best thing that you can do at the moment is learn how to be the best team-mate to the rest of your gang.

How do you accomplish this?

Understand your role: If your role is to protect and serve, then do that to the best of your ability. If your role is to kick butt than be the best at it. My father used to say, “Writers write and painters paint.” What he meant was, they don’t do anything else, such as plumbing or yodeling. Whatever profession you’ve chosen, do it to the best of your ability, and you’ll know exactly where you fit in as a member of a unit.

Understanding your role and responsibilities allows you to understand your team-mate’s role and responsibilities. Knowing how each part works makes the ‘whole’ perform that much better.

Be reliable: Do what you say you’re going to do. If you tell someone you’ll be there at 1500, then meet them at 1500. 1600 isn’t 1500 and neither is 1750. If you don’t have a good reason for not accomplishing something, then say so. A simple text takes 5 seconds to send. Apologize without making excuses. Most people are willing to forgive, but excuse making is intolerable. No one is to blame for your failures but you. Being reliable builds unit cohesiveness and opens a lot of doors for you. Being reliable builds camaraderie with your team and favor from your supervisor.

Share information: I think we’ve all worked with people who don’t share information. This is normal and certain information is important to keep to yourself, but information that can help your team agenda should be shared. Also, if you are a ninja-warrior- expert, keep in mind that beginners need mentors who are good examples. Demonstrate your proficiency and expertise to others who have less skill than you. As the old saying goes, “Anyone who is an expert at something started as a beginner.” No, I’m not talking about sharing stuff on WIKI leaks. 

Don’t cherry pick assignments: Do the job assigned to you and don’t pawn it off on someone else. DO NOT choose only the projects that seem easiest. DO NOT choose the ones that offer more benefits. Probably the worst thing you could do is palm off a lousy task or mission on someone else, and pretend it was theirs from the start. If they find out you were dishonest, and switched the tasks on them, it’s not going to be a good day for you.

Be willing to do more: This speaks volumes. Do more than the guy next to you. Being an example motivates others. Maybe even ‘that’ guy might pitch in to help.

Be a fierce competitor: Get out there and show your guys what you got, and ask them to do the same. Do more push ups, run faster, shoot better, or do something that helps invigorate your team. This can help build better cohesion. Be humble and be positive.

Give credit where it’s due: Don’t take credit that’s not yours. Congratulate even when you lose.

Respect your coworkers: Nuff said.

If you have the patience and time, maybe double back and help ‘that’ guy undo himself. It might work. If it’s Bradley Manning, well, sorry dude you’re screwed.





About The Author

Mike credits his early military training as the one thing that kept him disciplined through the many years. He currently provides his expertise as an adviser for the DoD. Michael Kurcina subscribes to the Spotter Up way of life. “I will either find a way or I will make one”.

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