Magnets. Speaking from experience “In a bar full of hundreds violent men seek each other out and let their hating hands say more than their ugly mouths could ever say with words.”~Michael Kurcina.
All men exist for some kind of danger and a desire to fight while seeing the world, but some draw fear—an invisible boundary around their body; a prison around their being, and they’ll never let their courage leave that home. I was reading a post from an influencer. He wrote about fighting and violence I believe with such a casualness; as if he understood them or was very comfortable with those ideas. I don’t agree with him. Perhaps he is kidding himself. I could be wrong. After many years of being around it or partaking of it I don’t think it’s wise to write about it with such a sense of ease.
Perhaps he should have used the word ‘fight. Violence is the totality of an act, it is the play, often without a termination time. A fight is a part of the act. Where a fight ends, violence may not; it may develop into other aspects. Fight is a word that I can understand but the word violence has such strong connotations rather than a simple denotation to me. I don’t think we should ever think of something violent as completely comprehensible. 30 years later I’m still learning how to express how I feel about violence, and what comes out of its existence. Abuse, damage, destroy; I can understand those; the word and the idea of violence to me is so raw; nearly formless. it should be treated with great respect; not tossed into a post with such easiness as if you’re an expert on it. That ls sloppiness, and minimizes it’s tones and gravity. Any child on any day can get into a fight, and so can a man. Getting into a fight is easy. Getting out of it can be difficult. A child can say he got into a fight but does a child ever say that he got violent? Does he say, “I’m violent?” No, and we would laugh at the boy. And if a man does, if he says, “I was violent. I did something violent,” what he contributes to the melee or to existence should be intense, and severe, It might perturb or he should keep his mouth shut. A man can write well; it doesn’t mean he understands what he wrote.
